So I am at church this past Sunday, and we had a guest preacher, who was ON POINT, by the way. The scripture was from Job 42:12-14, and he went into how women need to know who they are in Christ. It is because so many of us do NOT that we lose ourselves or have no identity and then look to men/relationships to define us. I truly believe this to be true and it makes total sense. Sometimes we get into relationships with men and we feel so good about ourselves when things are going well, and when they compliment us, etc. But when things are bad or they treat us bad, we feel bad about ourselves, to the point where it affects our self-esteem.
Ladies: Please, know who you are in God's eyes. Figure out what it is that you want in life. Do/get things for yourself, and don't wait for any man to do it for you. Have something to bring to the table, just like you want a man who also has something to bring to the table. (Good) men are looking for the same thing. Don't ask for a man with good credit when yours is jacked up, for example. Get yourself right.
Another thing (my last point): Women who have been in one bad relationship after another often ask, "Why do I keep getting approached by (or finding) dogs!? All men are dogs!" Umm... No, not all men are dogs. But "dogs" look for the wounded [women] because they know they can get what they want from them. If you not only have your business straight, but you are ALSO EMOTIONALLY healthy, most "dogs" won't approcach. And even if they do, YOU, Miss Emotionally-Healthy-Woman-Who-Has-Her-Business-In-Order, YOU can discern between who is real and who is not and nip that in the bud if necessary. Be strong and stand up for yourself, don't settle just to be with someone!!!